Of Earnest Shackleton and Ruth Bell Graham

*Thanks to Nathanael and Pkyslw I decided to write this post.*

Now you might be wondering, what does
Earnest Shackleton

and Ruth Bell Graham

have in common? One a British explorer who led up an Antarctic expedition in the early 20th century and one the wife of Billy Graham the preacher. Their commonality?

Their desire for something more, their wants in men; for Shackleton it was for those who would partake in the expedition he was leading into Antarctica, for Graham it was traits she wanted in a husband.

If you want to read what Shackleton wanted, click here.
If you want to read what Graham wanted, click here (“Let him be like thee”).

I use these two individuals to provide a “want desire ad” of sorts of what I’m looking for in a woman, my June, not just in a dating context but in a married one as well. Shackleton’s “want ad” is adventurous with many possible possibilities yet to occur, Graham’s is one of love and thinking big picture; she was a follower of Christ so the guy for her was to be a follower of Christ, likewise for me but for a Christian lady instead.

So here it goes…I am looking for a woman:
– who loves God
– who loves others
so far so good, eh? but I also want a woman
– who has a sense of humor
– who is smart, and not necessarily I-went-to-college-check-out-my-pedigree smart
– likes working with kids
– wants to have some of her own some day
– who makes me smile
– who brings out the best in me
– who I bring out the best in her
– who loves me (I am my beloved and my beloved is mine)
– who, after I share my heart and my mind, my past and my present…utter transparency…is still there.
– who is an egalitarian, who wants to make plans together
– likes photography (taking photos or even being photographed, iLike!)
– likes to travel
– like the whole “great outdoors” experience; hiking, backpacking, camping, fishing, making love in a sleeping bag under the stars near our campfire…)
– has a sense of self worth
– has a sense of purpose
– has a sense of what she wants to do with her life.
– invests in the lives of others
– is able to engage in conversation, it doesn’t have to be all the time but a woman who knows her stuff and speaks with conviction, iLike!

Here’s where it might get a bit tricky, and this revolves around stuff I like and where my heart is:

– someone who join me in working with youth in the context of youth ministry. It doesn’t have to be the only thing she does, but it does help to have someone who supports and engages in what you do by way of ministry.
– someone who will engage the LGBT community as I intend to do, and someone I can turn to at the end of the day, for better or worse, and discuss what that day was like.
– someone who if I take on a role of pastor of Warehouse SoCal supports me in this. I don’t want her or even my kids to take the stereotypical pastor’s wife and PK roles. I want her to have a sense of identity apart from being my wife and the pastor’s wife.


Now I recognize I might not find every facet I listed in one woman, and since I’m not into polygamy I hope to find a woman who has a good deal of these character traits.

This is what I’m looking for, are you out there my June? I love you already even if we haven’t met yet.


Becoming a Christian is the easiest thing to do*

*but for the one who chooses to follow Christ, it gets dramatically more difficult…

In my younger years, I wore a shirt that said this:

It amused some, and irked others and being in a Roman Catholic neighborhood where the school is up the block and the church is a block behind me, and one neighbor flies the Vatican/Papal flag off his front porch…needless to say it got people talking.
Some people took it literally; “why yes I wear a cross around my neck, its encrusted with diamonds and is 22k gold”
Some people were confrontational; “what do you mean by that? What are you saying about me?”


Becoming a Christian, whether you think its wrapped up in a prayer or just an audible confession to God to save you because He alone can save…I won’t mess with that, even tho I think the Western church has tidied up the package and have reduced it to a “say the prayer, get out of Hell” card.
But from there on out, if you choose to be a follower of Christ, if you choose to read the Bible especially the parts written in red…it’s the most difficult thing you can do.

Commands to love your enemies, to pray for those persecute you, to take care of the hungry/orphans/widows/naked/imprisoned, to recognize that wealth is fleeting and it’s not all that important…for starters.
So I ask you the reader, you who align with being a Christian and perhaps being a follower of Christ, does the cross you choose to wear look like


Is it something that takes all your energy to carry it, do you struggle, is there a pull for you to die to yourself and live as Christ did?

Wearing His cross will ruin your life, the Gospel message (unlike what K-Love sells via radio) is not family friendly, it will devastate you and utterly ruin any idea of living a normal life, and some will still face death by those who persecute followers of Christ…but here’s what it can do.
It can change the hearts of individuals, and since everyone has a heart (no matter how dark or hard it is, everyone has one) it can lead to change on a large and sometimes governmental level. It can bring restoration and reconciliation between others, it can make people who have hated each other good friends, it brings life to those who have been dead and so much more!

For those skeptics who are burned or have been burned by Christians and have tainted the Gospel message as a result, I’m sorry. I’m there too even if I’m on the inside. My apologies might seem shallow, and if you want to talk about it feel free to message me…

In closing, I want to say that if you choose to take the road of following Christ it will cost you everything and your identity will no longer be your own. You must die to yourself so that Christ can live through you. It is an adventure that doesn’t end, it is a journey with many twists and turns, it is the most demanding thing anyone can do…but the dividends that you might not see now you will see someday.