Now you might be wondering, what does
and Ruth Bell Graham
have in common? One a British explorer who led up an Antarctic expedition in the early 20th century and one the wife of Billy Graham the preacher. Their commonality?
Their desire for something more, their wants in men; for Shackleton it was for those who would partake in the expedition he was leading into Antarctica, for Graham it was traits she wanted in a husband.
I use these two individuals to provide a “want desire ad” of sorts of what I’m looking for in a woman, my June, not just in a dating context but in a married one as well. Shackleton’s “want ad” is adventurous with many possible possibilities yet to occur, Graham’s is one of love and thinking big picture; she was a follower of Christ so the guy for her was to be a follower of Christ, likewise for me but for a Christian lady instead.
So here it goes…I am looking for a woman:
– who loves God
– who loves others
so far so good, eh? but I also want a woman
– who has a sense of humor
– who is smart, and not necessarily I-went-to-college-check-out-my-pedigree smart
– likes working with kids
– wants to have some of her own some day
– who makes me smile
– who brings out the best in me
– who I bring out the best in her
– who loves me (I am my beloved and my beloved is mine)
– who, after I share my heart and my mind, my past and my present…utter transparency…is still there.
– who is an egalitarian, who wants to make plans together
– likes photography (taking photos or even being photographed, iLike!)
– likes to travel
– like the whole “great outdoors” experience; hiking, backpacking, camping, fishing, making love in a sleeping bag under the stars near our campfire…)
– has a sense of self worth
– has a sense of purpose
– has a sense of what she wants to do with her life.
– invests in the lives of others
– is able to engage in conversation, it doesn’t have to be all the time but a woman who knows her stuff and speaks with conviction, iLike!
Here’s where it might get a bit tricky, and this revolves around stuff I like and where my heart is:
– someone who join me in working with youth in the context of youth ministry. It doesn’t have to be the only thing she does, but it does help to have someone who supports and engages in what you do by way of ministry.
– someone who will engage the LGBT community as I intend to do, and someone I can turn to at the end of the day, for better or worse, and discuss what that day was like.
– someone who if I take on a role of pastor of Warehouse SoCal supports me in this. I don’t want her or even my kids to take the stereotypical pastor’s wife and PK roles. I want her to have a sense of identity apart from being my wife and the pastor’s wife.
Now I recognize I might not find every facet I listed in one woman, and since I’m not into polygamy I hope to find a woman who has a good deal of these character traits.
This is what I’m looking for, are you out there my June? I love you already even if we haven’t met yet.