I don’t have any friends who have come out to me but I recognize that coming out is a sacred moment that should be honored. The sacredness is symbiotic in nature, that is, the one coming out is sharing something to someone and the one receiving the coming out moment also gives something of themselves.
Coming out, depending on who you are and your environment, can be one of the most difficult things to do but also one of the most freeing things to do. It’s about being authentic with your sexuality, it’s about making it known to others that you’re gay, bi, or lesbian. Coming out takes guts, but by being real with yourself and sharing this with others, that’s part of the sacredness.
Now how is sacred for the person receiving the news of someone coming out? The way I see it, the sacredness comes from being able to speak into the person’s life upon getting this news, you can affirm them and certainly love on them for this bold act, because there are definitely individuals who do not come out because the stakes are too high; being kicked out of a family, abuse, death threats are some reasons why some people don’t come out.
What gets said in the moments following someone’s coming out sets the course from there on out, granted positive words and actions are the best way to go about it. The person who came out worked up the courage to figure out who they are and they also worked up the courage to share it with you as well…honoring that person, recognizing their Imago Dei-ness, loving that person and sticking up for them if needed be…all that is sacred.
To the reader who is considering coming out, God bless you on this giant step you’re about to make! I hope the people you share this hear you and love on you continuously.
To the reader who may have someone come out to them, God bless you in hearing what they have to say and loving them still. May your words be a salve to their heart and mind.
(I discovered this coming out video as I was writing this post, I thought it was worth sharing)