As someone who texts on a regular basis to family and friends, I enjoy the brief spurts of communication here and there. Yet I am fully aware of the short-comings of texting.
No emotion is truly known / feelings might get hurt without the other knowing – While some phones provide you with visual queues as to what the person is feeling, be it 🙂 or 😦 it is still pretty speculative when it comes to texting. A friend conveyed to me that he knew something was up with the other person because they used ITALICS, um, Italics eh? Sarcasm as well cannot be detected by way of texting, if someone responded to a sarcastic text by asking that person if they’re being sarcastic they easily could text “No I am not being sarcastic” while being sarcastic, but again, that is lost in translation when texting.
Texting and Driving – Now I am guilty of having done this one in my life, and while there are stats that say that texting and driving is worse than drinking and driving, I rather come from the perspective of what driving is; so much of driving is observation and responding to what’s been observed, nobody truly needs to add distracting behavior while you’re observing. Nowadays I don’t even pick up my phone to answer it while driving, I’m not a multitasker, and (for me) talking on the phone only takes away from my driving.
The caveat of texting as communication – As is the case of most things, moderation is where it’s at. When texting becomes your only means of communication then…you’re doing it wrong. Texting should NOT replace face-to-face communication, granted if you’re texting your friend in California and you’re in Illinois, there’s some ease and grace for doing so. Yet if you’re texting your bro, and you can drive out to hang out with him, by all means stop texting and go hang out with him. There are people in my life who are distant from me (personally) who only text me, ONLY, and it bothers me and I don’t respond and they get angry and text me. Seriously? You’re consciously choosing to text me over talking to me and hanging out with me? That is offensive to me and whatever is left of our relationship.
Text if you will and if you can, but take time to disconnect from your phone and connect in real life. It’s so much better, I promise!